Apologies to anyone and everyone riding high on a recent success or mega-success, who can’t associate with the word struggle.
Generally, most of us are struggling with something or the other lot of times. And most of the times it is associated with achieving a goal. The usual saying is that if you aren’t fighting, you aren’t moving.
In better words:
“You will never be entirely comfortable. This is the truth behind the champion – he is always fighting something. To do otherwise is to settle.”
― Julien Smith, The Flinch
The purpose of this post is to provide a perspective to make this discomfort comfortable.
5 ways to think and do differently to feel good while struggling:
1) Set up TINY EASY achievable goals
& achieve them. Not achieving small goals kind of confirms that you are struggling. Not with goals. But with discipline. Make it very easy for you. To be honest I have been struggling with this blog. So, what did I do? I decided to just write 3 lines everyday. I am sure that’s not what I intended initially, but I am progressing & I am sure I will finish this blog. And you will read it. Very tiny. Very easy.
2) Struggle is a STATE OF MIND
This is not something that you can tell someone who is struggling for basic amenities in life, but for the rest of us, if you feel you are struggling, you indeed will. Simplest way to start enjoying your current state is to not bother about your current state. Basically we all know this. Attitude matters. But then, when things are not going right, how do you have an awesome attitude all the while? I will tell you one of the things that I do. I watch comedy. Whichever form makes you laugh. Stand up comedy. Any language that you are comfortable with. Comedy makes you look at the lighter side of things. Another thing that boosts me up is spending some time in the sun. When I am out in the sun, I feel nothing is impossible. Not that I spend hours there, just enough to feel that spark and ease back in you. Find your “sun”. And do it everyday!
3) DO NOT COMPARE yourself with others
Without a doubt, we all tend to do this. And it always hurts when you compare “up”. Or compare with people you feel are ahead of you and so on. The fact is this: it doesn’t change things unless you have the tendency to get inspired by comparing with others. The other thing is that the other person in most cases would have started way before you, and might have worked very hard too. He/She might have “struggled” too. Let go of comparison. Compare yourself to your previous versions.
4) Pick up RUNNING (Newton’s first law)
Running is body in action. And action is fundamental to feeling good. Running may feel like “struggling” sometimes and that’s where it resembles life.. If you just push a little and continue for a while, the struggle goes away and towards the end of the run you feel blessed. The idea is, everyday after you finish your run, you feel very good and triumphant. Your mood and positivity soars and you feel everything is possible. Doesn’t matter how hard or fast you run, just set easy achievable targets and go for them. This somewhere makes your life way easier and stress-free. Trust me on this one. Try out running if you aren’t already doing it.
5) Take a VACATION once in 2 to 3 months
Need not be a lavish. A 3-4 day getaway from the regular daily routine sets up things in the right perspective. Even planning out a vacation is stress-relieving. You have a date to look forward to and that makes the wait worthwhile.
6) ASK FOR HELP
The simplest and most powerful tool we all have. Most of us get into this “it’s my fight, I will do it myself” mode lots of times without realizing it. As a toddler entrepreneur, ever since I have been building and working on the sales for feetapart.com, I have realized how much is left unattended if you don’t ask for it. There may be several NOs you may need to hear before a YES, but those were all NOs anyway if you never asked for them. One of my friends just asked for complimentary passes for a popular tech event for around 6 of us, and got it. Keep in mind the power of asking.
There is just one life, get busy living!